Good Things

Open Book

I’ve never been a fan of Jessica Simpson’s music – I didn’t have anything against her, but she just wasn’t on my listening radar. I didn’t see her show on MTV either, but I was certainly aware of it (of the chicken v. tuna controversy, I recall exclaiming at the time that she had to be putting that shit on for TV as nobody could be grown and not know the difference between chicken and tuna). She was always covered in the magazines and pop culture media, so I suppose that my first real awareness of her came from the press discussing how “fat” she was, which I couldn’t understand for the life of me. Fat? Excuse me?? In what world was that tiny little slip of a woman fat? What bullshit. It’s no wonder that the majority of women these days are raised to hate themselves – the media can be so vile.

Anyway, I came across her book recently and decided to check it out – and, somewhat surprisingly, I’m so glad that I did. She tells the tale of her life with bracing honesty, something that is frankly refreshing as hell. She admits to feelings of jealousy and to her own shitty behavior in a way that so many celebs avoid…I loved that. She shared excerpts of her journals (I don’t think I would be brave enough to broadcast some of the tales I’ve committed to the page of my journals over the years!), she talked frequently about the process of journaling and what that’s meant to her – all good stuff.

I can’t imagine a life like hers – she has taken her GED, singing talent, and good looks and managed to make all of that into a billion dollar business. I respect the shit out of that, you know? Some folks have the kind of mind that sees opportunity at every door…I am sadly not that kind of folk. I LONG for a way to make a living that’s not ‘working for the man’…I want to work for myself, find things that are exhilarating and fulfilling – and make enough money to live comfortably without worry. I haven’t found that thing for me yet, and, at the ripe old age of 47, I fear that I never will. I don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, and I think it may be too late to forge a new path and start a new career, which stinks. I’ve got about 18-20 years of working left (that’s so gross…I wish I was on the Freedom 55 retirement plan!), and I would like for them to be pleasant, enriching years for me. I just don’t think that’s going to happen. 😔

By choosing education – and now education within the non-profit arena – I’ve guaranteed myself a life that will never be rich. I won’t have the million(s) needed for retirement unless I win a lotto, which seems rather unlikely, sadly. I know that I can take great personal satisfaction in the work that I’ve done and the difference I’ve made – and I do – but some compensation would be nice. ♥️

Instead, I will continue to dream of working for myself, of coming up with one really good idea that sets the world on fire 🔥, that one thing that will get me out of this rut of making ends meet and catapult me into a life of less stress and so much more fulfillment. Until then? I’m going to keep dreaming. That idea is out there waiting for me, I just know it. ✨

Xxx

Good Things

Feeling Good

I am obsessed with watching Ted Talks, and I should probably be ashamed of all the hours that I spend researching them, watching them, and trying to put the strategies that they suggest into practice in my life, but…I’m totally not. I friggin’ LOVE them, and find them endlessly inspiring. I saw this one recently – it’s Ashley Stahl, talking about three questions that will help you unlock your authentic career….and it kind of rocked my world. Here’s the video:

  It’s a great video, and I think that the three questions really are excellent – here they are: What am I good at? What do other people think I’m good at? What’s holding me back?  I love this…and I think we ought to answer them together. Let’s go! 🙂

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First – what am I good at? Hmmm….probably not a whole lot, sadly. I’m a person who is okay at a few things, but there is not one thing that I would consider myself expert at. I think I’m good with children, and I’m okay at writing. I’m good at planning events, and I’m a great reader. I’m a very good traveler, and I adapt well to other cultures and customs. I’m a good cook (I think), a great shopper, I’m okay at fashion, and I hope that I’m a decent mama. I think that’s probably a very optimistic list – I’m probably not as good as this paragraph makes me sound! 😉

Now…on to the second question: what do other people think I’m good at? I don’t have a hot clue. I don’t seem to hear a whole lot of praise in my life – which kind of sucks, because who doesn’t love praise? However, I choose to believe that as long as I don’t hear complaints and bitching, then I must be doing okay at things. I have posed the question to some people who know me – this is what they think I’m good at: music (I wish!), writing (you guys are so sweet – love 🙂 ), giving direction (which is code for being a bossy boots – but…I’ll take it, it’s the truth), problem solving (I’m flattered by that one – thank you!), and planning/organizing. I love this list – I think it’s cool that people think that I have these skills – yaa! Thanks, guys!! 🙂

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Finally….it’s no mystery what is holding me back from trying different career paths: money. A lot of the things that I would like to pursue don’t come with big salaries, and sadly, at this point in my life, I need as high of a guaranteed salary as I can possibly manage. I’m a single mother, I’ve got student loan debt, and I’ve got a lot of financial responsibilities. I can’t afford to follow every whim and fancy, hoping that some day my ship will come in. Today is that day – and I need that damn ship in the harbor NOW. However, I think that I need to become better at time management, and work on pursuing other interests and try to make them into potential careers/sources of income during my off time – kind of like a second job (which I may very well need to get before long). I think that I need to make a calendar, and set targets of things that I want to pursue – once I set a date for them, the deadline will be the impetus that I need to get my arse in gear. I’m not getting any younger…I need to get going on things. The time is now. What do you think you’re good at? I’d love to hear – hit me up and let’s talk about this! 🙂

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